Ask kabbalahmalka

OK, you clicked. After reviewing about 1,000 profiles, and going on about 3 dates, you think you've finally found someone to pursue! So, what are the next steps?

The first step in meeting someone is to find out about them in a spiritual way by using the Tree of Life Leaf, Tiferet, or Beauty. This is located in the heart, and for the first month, you will use your heart's love to experience the world in a new way. Have fun with your intended, but keep it light. The more powerful form of love, Hesed, will be explored in a later month.

Question: I need to break up with someone that I met on the Internet....we met a few times, and he's moving way too fast for me. I feel uncomfortable and confused.

Before committing to a long-term relationship, many areas within each partner need to be revealed, and of course, this can only happen over time. The suggested timeframe for committing to a long-term relationship is 8 months. In the first few months of a new relationship, it's normal to feel head-over-heels, and maybe this is how your guy is feeling. If you like other parts of him besides the pressure, try communicating with him about your feelings. But, if there are too many red flags to begin with, apply Hesed (Love) in your heart, and if possible, your actions, when you say goodbye.